5 Ways to Move Past the Heartbreak of Being Ghosted by Your Best Friend

We’ve all been there. At one point or another, whether it was through our Endometriosis journey or through our infertility, all of a sudden our best friend has become non-existent. We’ve tried to contact him/her via text, call, and even email, and yet we still couldn’t get ahold of them. It’s almost as if they’ve fallen off the face of the Earth.

Miraculously, one day we look down at our phone and see THE text.

You know, the one where no matter how the message is read, all you can see is one big excuse as to why they’ve been ghosting you all this time. Despite their best efforts to tell us they’re overwhelmed, don’t know how to talk to us, or just need space, we’re left feeling unsatisfied and unsupported. It almost makes it worse when he or she is all like, “I’ll always love you and have you in my prayers.” Blah. Blah. Blah. To lessen the burn, we’ve come up with five ways to cope with the pain of being ghosted by your best friend.

Cry; like you mean it. 

It’s okay to cry. Take a day to be by yourself and just cry. You just lost the one person who said they’d be there for you during the good and the bad. They said that they’d be there with you no matter how long it took. What they failed to realize is how difficult living with a chronic illness can be.

Call your mom.

Mom always knows just what to say to keep us calm. She can walk us through anything that has had a significant impact on our lives. No matter what’s going on, our moms know when to give us that swift kick in the ass to motivate us. Use this heartbreak as motivation to prove everyone who decided to leave you wrong. (Nobody messes with a momma bear whose baby bear just got her heartbroken.)

Write your feelings out on paper. 

For some of us, writing helps us process. We try to understand our bestie’s point of view, but at the end of the day, we can’t really understand what they’re trying to say. They say that they love us, yet they don’t want to talk to us. They wish us the best, but they don’t want to see us. They only see our success from afar, AKA social media.

Breakups are hard and confusing. Writing may also give you a chance to write down everything your bestie said. This way, you may be able to see the situation from their POV and how they came to that conclusion. When you hear your bestie say: “I just don’t know how to talk to you anymore.” Write down ways the situation could have gotten that way.

Did you recently say something that was unclear or are they totally blowing what you said out of proportion? Either way, writing things out gives you a chance to see what happened. If you are able to see things from both perspectives, send them a letter.

Watch one movie or one thousand movies. Your call. 

There’s nothing better than seeing our girl Elle giving her graduation commencement speech while everyone, including Warner, stared in amazement. Remember: “You must always have faith in people. And most importantly you must always have faith in yourself.”

Eat whatever you want. 

After all, you deserve it. Going through heartbreak means breaking your diet and eating your favorite ice cream. And not just a few scoops – the whole pint. What’s your favorite? Currently, I’m loving the Salted Caramel Chocolate Triple Layer Ice Cream by Hagen Daaz. (Yes, it’s just as delicious as it sounds.)

I encourage you to eat your ice cream while watching “Legally Blonde” and crying on the phone to your mom. Getting over a breakup is not easy but it can be done. After all, your best friend deserves the best of you and you deserve the best from your besties. Plus, if your so-called bestie is going to leave you now (when you need them most) they don’t deserve you.